I want to start by saying that SDC.com is not the only swinger site out there, and maybe also not as massive as SLS but it is the one that Erika and I first knew about, and came to love and trust. In this article I would like to speak from the heart, and explain SDC from my perspective and experience.
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The Charm of SDC
To this day I am unsure if it is really called “SwingerDatingClub” or “SwingerDatingCommunity”, but everyone just calls it SDC, because in the community it is probably the most known site.
It is a place where all kind of kinks and sexual desires get lived out in safe environments. While swingers are at the forefront, there are a lot of different groups on the site looking to connect.
While we use SDC mostly to find other couples and possibly meet up, there is also community chatrooms where couples share pictures or webcam interactions, there is event and party listings with sexual themes from all over the world that you can find nicely organized in an Agenda.
There is also, (I love this idea) a kind of posting board where people can announce if they are traveling to a certain place, and swingers in that area can meet up during that time.
So there is definitely a lot to do and explore, even if you are not in a swinger relationship!
Navigating the SDC Experience
Well at first, like on any normal dating site, you create your profile. Put a Safe-for-work picture, and you also have the option of putting locked pictures of a more kinky nature, that you can then reveal by giving certain people a password to that folder. We do this usually just before we are going to meet a couple.
So in our case, we started browsing for people around us that were not too far away. Our first times, we spent a lot of time chatting with people on the site, seeing if we clicked. We avoided when people tried to change chatting platform and wanted to move to something like WhatsApp.
In a sense SDC is a safe platform if you keep everything on SDC. But we noticed that in our first meet-up we weren’t really able to message the couple anymore as soon as we left the house, so we made sure to take a phone number on our next meetup.
We also found out about a great swinger club in our area through SDC. It’s called Fun4Two! We have a whole post about it here.
What Happened to Us
Lastly, I want to describe a meetup we had on SDC that Erika and I both really enjoyed. We think the other couple enjoyed it as well, but we sadly never saw them again. A small part of me hopes that they are somewhere with a phone in their hands, and this article pops up on their screen.
It started with the usual “going through profiles” phase, where we have a few beers behind the computer going through profiles like excited schoolgirls.
There is the “Maybe-Profiles“, where you think you would want to meet them, but they only show the woman for example, or you can’t see their faces, and you begin to fight with the old Disney values like: “Their looks don’t matter, its what is inside that matters!” Until you realize that you just wanna smash with someone, and looks start mattering again.
Then there is the “Nordic-Gods-Profiles“. These might be because we live in the Netherlands and there are a lot of good looking people here, but sometimes you come across profiles where people look insanely out of our league, and even if we think we are cute, there is just such a fear to overcome to write those couples up. Turns out they are never really judgmental and super nice in most cases. But still… An intimidatingly beautiful appearance, which can really mess with my cool.
I could write a book about all the various types, but I will try to explain the Couple we met.
She was a beautiful fit blonde woman, from the looks maybe maximum 40 years old.
He was a stylish young guy with a calm aura, also very fit. He was very charismatic and comedic in our conversations on SDC, that we immediately felt a connection to them.
So after all of that we basically set up an evening at their place. We had such an uplifting and fun time, and spent the whole beginning of the evening just laughing whole-heartedly, getting to know each other, and talking about the weirdest things we have seen in the swinger scene.
We ate an ungodly sized plate of sushi that we ordered, and received from a very confused delivery guy (because we were all laughing at the dinner table in our underwear in the background).
When the evening progressed and we had some drinks we decided to spread out a bear-pelt (that she had stored away at home for some random reason) in the living room and had our play time on and a massive bear-pelt, which felt like a movie scene.
All in all we had a great time and left in the morning leaving them a nice note, as we had to take a train and didn’t want to wake them.
This experience was thanks to SDC. I saw an article about SDC written on a sketchy website when I was like 18 years old. If it wouldn’t have been for that article, I probably never would have had this experience.
This is why I hope, someone reads this article, and finds the same crazy adventures at the end of the path as I did.
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